24 years of my life and there are the things I have learned through the hardest way.
On, my 25th birthday which was celebrated a few days back, I decided not to do the following things in my life:
- Never see someone’s success: Listen to your own heart and get a purpose for the life. Then connect it to your work. “Happiness is knowing what you want and diverting your whole energy towards it” as said by Robin Sharma.
- Don’t listen to your heart blindly: Don’t forget to do extensive research on the market of your job industry. For ex, your heart may ask you to work and have a career in playing Sitar. But, no one likes to listen to it. Then, don’t do it.
- Don’t dream but work on it: “Idealization without execution is a delusion.”-Robin Sharma. Start working harder on your dreams.
- Never spend on your friends heavily at the cost of your parent’s money. If your parents cannot afford an iPhone, don’t ask them. It’s ok, if you cannot throw a party on your birthday in a good restaurant. Just, know your parent’s affordability.
- Never give your valued belongings to your friends: They definitely, don’t know their value. I spoiled my bike, phone and also my laptop because of this. Give them only if your friends desperately needed them.
- Don’t make friendship for status or for others: Don’t try to talk or make friendship just because someone is famous in college. Friendship is about trusting and sharing. Find a person whom you trust and can share your feelings.
- Don’t maintain groups: Don’t maintain any groups. For ex: people belonging to the particular region, religion, caste, sex, class, college etc. “Be open minded, don’t judge the person by the colour of the skin but judge him/her by the content of character” as said by Martin Luther.
- Don’t try to desperately make friends: Friends just happen. You don’t have to search for them. During the path of your career, project, assignment, tours, volunteering etc., you can make friends. Don’t try desperately.
3. Social work:
- Don’t donate but work: I’m serious. Many of the NGOs are fake. I donated the lot of my money which I could have saved. Never donate your hard earned money. If you are a doctor, then organize health camps. If you are a software engineer, organize and teach computer skills to students. If you are a marketer, then freely market for small companies. Work on your expertise. Gandhi worked but never donated.
- Donate blood but don’t forget to track it: Ask the hospital or the NGO, how your blood was utilized. Beware; blood is being sold for the huge price.
- Love children but don’t give them valuable belongings: Don’t make kids in the orphanage get used to a lifestyle which they cannot enjoy at their place. Just share love. Mother Theresa just loved but never gave costly clothes to kids.
4. Relationship and love:
- Don’t commit to a person if you are not independent: The first rule of being dependent on others is to be independent as said by Stephen R Covey in his book 7 ways of highly effective people. Trust me; relations I saw in the first year were all broken up by the time I reached final year.
- Don’t break up easily after committing: Two cases, one had a divorce because the husband wants to keep the fan speed at 6 and wife at 2. They never slept happily. Another case, her boyfriend saw her being dropped by his friend at the hostel. She had no choice but to go on his bike as it was late at night. For this, he had beaten her hard. The former case is nonsense and in the latter case, there is no point in living together.
- Don’t try to do everything: I love skating, playing basketball & football, cycling, reading books, writing, riding etc., But I cannot do everything. Shorten your hobbies. Focus more on what you can continue after 5 or 10 years. Now, I am just going to gym, reading books and writing. I know I can do this even after 10 years.
- Don’t skip Newspaper: It’s a waste of living in the world without knowing what is happening around you. As my psychology professor once said, life is all about knowing the risks, reducing them and moving on.
6. Social networking:
- Neither like too many pages on Facebook nor read News in it: Facebook was designed to keep in touch with friends. Of late, you a being targeted by the MNCs and other media depending on your place, sex, age, interests and educational background. Beware of what you read, think and act. Don’t waste time on reading nonsense
- Text less on Whatsapp: I know that every one of us is in love with it. Use it only if it is mandatory. You are neither deaf nor dumb to text 24/7. The strength of emotional bond increases when you make an eye contact with the person. Later, it is for video call, next for a call and lasts for texting.
- Don’t mess with LinkedIn: There are many aspirants waiting for an interview call. Don’t create nonsense stuff in it.
- Don’t enjoy the product but enjoy the process: Nishkam karma yogi of Bhagavad Gita asks us to be detached from the end result but try our level best to achieve goals. For ex, Mark Zuckerberg wants to connect the whole world with Facebook. If he can’t? Does it mean that he has wasted his life?
- Don’t just follow your religion: Question it. Contradict it. Compliment it. Have in-depth knowledge of your religion and know basics of others. All religions propagate similar principles except that each religion was a product of the situation. Ex, Buddhism in 5th century BC was the product of subjugation of traders by Brahmans of Hinduism. Of course, Hinduism was reinvigorated by Swami Vivekananda.
8. Finance and Investments:
- Don’t start late: Start savings and investments as soon as possible. Best time is in the early 20s. You may become another Warren Buffet
- Don’t put all your eggs in one basket: Diversify your investments. If you put all eggs in one basket, then safeguard it like a soldier.
- Don’t try to earn but try to work: Know exactly what you love and then learn how to earn from it. Try this and you will see wonders.
Stopping this section as it is not a FINANCE classroom
- Don’t follow a person but follow their work: As Gandhi says, don’t hate the person but hate their work. Suppose if suddenly my Dad does some mistake, it’s my responsibility to correct him. Also. I hate my friends drinking habit but not my friend.
- Don’t make anyone wait for you: Be punctual. If not it decreases your trustworthiness.
- Don’t criticize people in public and praise privately: Do the opposite
- Don’t skip your breakfast, lunch or dinner for any reason.
- If you like any article, never skip it without sharing. It discourages the writer.
1st year, PGDM
Great Lakes Institute of Management